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What a difference 1 year makes!
Similar to a year ago, just without the tears! |
I remember feeling super relaxed a year ago. My heart was breaking for all the changes Nian hadn't realized he would be facing and how his little heart would be feeling. And knowing the heartache Cheng would be feeling. Little did I know how different our day would be from those few years before. wow the memories are just flooding back, and seeing those pictures breaks my heart and gets the tears starting again. I remember his heartbreak as if it just happened again. Our boy was grieving pretty hard that first hour with us. It actually took him a good 20 minutes before I finally took him in my arms and tried my best to comfort him. Nothing was working. It would take the orphanage director leaving the building for him to finally settle down. So so different from our Nian who was super quiet that day.
Here's our day with past pics and some new ones.
Our day started early with a relaxing time before heading down to breakfast. Nian LOVED the congee, which means I better figure out how to make it when we get home, and the pancakes. He ate about 3 of them.
We met our group on the lobby at 9:30 am and headed over to the civil service office, which is much nicer than the last location we had with Nian. Lots more seating and more play items. And of course, like much of China right now HOT inside..
We waited maybe 45 minutes before little brother arrived. And he promptly put the breaks on and backed away. We knew he would probably be quieter than Nian since Nian is so busy. They say your child will either cry or will be quiet. Nian was quiet, and did his grieving at night... like every hour he was up screaming. Well if that is any indication of how our night will go it'll be pretty quiet because little brother was crying and screaming until about 2 minutes before we left to head back to the hotel.
He finally fell asleep then promptly woke up once Joe tried to put him in the crib. No more fussing since then and he even laughed a few times. He is bonding good with Joe and ok with me. I'm good with them bonding more now since Joe will return to work when we get home, I'll be off for another few months.
We completed some additional paperwork after a few hours, and are currently hanging out in our room. We'll head over to the store to get him some new shoes, and hopefully get him in the tub later, or at least into some pj's. He has yet to let us take him large sweatshirt off him. We did just take his shoes off and they are a bit big. As you can see from the pictures he's in pink. Gender specific cloths aren't an issue in the orphanage. They will dress the kids in whatever cloths they have so boys may end up in pink flowers and girls may end up in blue dinosaurs. Cloths are cloths.
He's enjoying the toys and snacks we have so we are grateful for the progress. He has also fed all of us, and allowed us to feed him. Big step there towards trust..
Nian is doing a GREAT job so far by being patient and sharing. He is such a great big brother.
We are praying the rest of our night go smoothly. We have more paperwork tomorrow at the notary office, and we will also go apply his passport. We will also get train tickets to visit the orphanage later this week. We are looking forward to that and hope he does well and this will bring him closure.
Thanks for all the prayers, love, and support. We felt them today. We will certainly need them all as we continue our time here in China as well as at home.
Here are some pictures from today's events..
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| The boys an Angel it's the Dino I'd be worried about!!!1 |
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| Last breakfast as a family of 4 (Isabel included) |
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| That darm Dino getting into all sorts of mischief! |
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| Coffee |
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| Mmm baked beans |
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| Chop sticks |
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| ROAR |
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| Hey Evan your smiling again... |
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| Ready to go get little brother.. |
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| There he is..... |
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| And yeah he's not feeling it... |
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| The orphanage director holding him. |
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| and here we go... |
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Hard to believe this little boy of mine that doesn't like me to leave
him once wanted NOTHING to do with me... Bless his breaking heart that day. |
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| saying Good bye is so hard.. |
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| Surprisingly I hadn't cried yet.. except inside. |
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| signing guardianship papers. we'll sign the actual papers tomorrow. |
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| Yep that was our morning.. |
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| Joe and Nian have the magic touch |
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| waiting for the bus (it was really hard to put only 1 s in bus...) |
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| Wowzers.. the boy is tall just like his Baba! |
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| This would NOT be the last we'd see of this facial expression... |
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| Finally got some smiles and laughs during a game of CHEERS! |
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And we have the sweatshirt off. He liked to sit in this window ledge.
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| Ready for bed. |
While we are excited and loving this day of celebration, we are also mindful of another family that was with us ( not in our group but still there that day) who added another son to their family. We didn't get a chance to talk to them as they had been there when we got there, and their son was one of the first kiddo there. But I recently learned their little guy lost his fight and is spending this gotcha day in Heaven. It just breaks my heart. I can only imagine what they must be feeling today.
Please keep this family in your thoughts and prayers today. I imagine they are getting flooded with some many wonderful memories from today that bring another wave of grief for them. We also ask you to keep Kristen, James, and Will in your prayers as they left today for China to bring their 2nd son Isaac home. We are super excited for them all, and fully understand what they are going to be going through over the next few weeks. So many changes.
Thanks for following our memory train....
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